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Thoughts about the Third Culture Kid Experience by Megan Sanchez of EVMO News

 

What a blessing and a curse it is to grow up ‘in between’ cultures  –  a mood situated in the middle of the road between the ‘haunted’ and  the ‘magical’.

‘Haunted’ because it hurts so excruciatingly deeply to not be fully accepted by your “own people”.

  • .. what does she mean by ‘own people’?          –

Well, supposedly, all of the imaginable people you have encountered in your TCK (Third Culture Kid) journey.

All of them – “passport country buddies,” “host-country comrades,” your favourite grocery store clerk that always smiles to you on your bad days… well, if these “people of yours” wake up one day and decide you are “no longer like them”, then in your head you will think “you are no longer enough”.

This creates identity crises which need to be overcome, and that’s the ‘haunting’ part of the TCK (Third Culture Kid) experience.

That’s what happened in my head at least, hopping back and forth among: Italy, Greece, Georgia (Saqartvelo) and USA.

Let us leave the ‘where are you from’ question-dilemma for another time. I believe it should be abolished from vocabulary (and for good reasons).

The point is, that sometimes a person who has been raised in the same place all their life can handle only about half a minute of these aforementioned “TCK-like discussions” before throwing in the glove and either thinking:

  1. a) Ok, this person is showing off and I’m annoyed or b) TCK-ay SHM-KAY….whatever.

It is very difficult dealing with people who are not accustomed to TCK-ness. And yet, with age and time, I can say from my personal experience that there is indeed ‘magic’ to the TCK experience.

 




I allowed myself to see this magic after a very important realization:

1) In each and every country that has made me who I am I will always find people that will consider me ‘one of them’ and I will also find people within that same country that will consider me not enough, a foreigner, one of “THEM”.

I sat myself down on a chair and decided that I’m ok with that not onlyas a TCK (Third Culture Kid). But I’m ok with that as a human.

What do I mean by “being ok with it as a human?”  I mean that you do not have to necessarily bea TCK to feel like you are not a part of “us” because you are a part “them.”

You can have a different skin color and FEEL that SAME feeling – the feeling of unacceptance. The feeling of rejection. The feeling of not being enough. You can be a man, a woman, a child, an immigrant, a disabled person, a TCK or not…. the feeling you will feel is the same ugly and discomforting one.

 




And so, let me get to the magical part: if we feel the same, doesn’t that mean we are unified and share a common thread in humanity?

I believe yes. And that is how I reacted to the ‘haunting ghosts’ of my TCK (Third Culture Kid) experience.

I decided to build something dedicated to humanity.

Something to bring people together and not apart.

Something that will spread the awareness that it’s not about “us” and “them”.

Something that will spread the awareness that it is about ALL OF US HUMANS period.

And that’s why I created EVMO News: the Evolution Movement News.

My goal with it is to construct a modern type of Enlightenment movement by the people, for the people and of the people.

A movement that can give TCKs (Third Culture Kids) a space to call a home, a place where they can reflect and connect, but also a space to bring all diverse cultures out there and bring them under one roof: to discuss, to belong, to bond, to come up with creative solutions to make the world better.

To be as one.

 

“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” ― Søren Kierkegaard

 




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