Welcome back to the Do It Yourself Depression Treatment Program.
My name is Philip Andersson. I am a psychotherapist and the founder of Wherapy.
In the last lesson, I spoke about the second pillar of good mental health, the social factors. There, we took a look at how a social network can impact your self-esteem, and be of use practically. We also talked about how to build a good social network from scratch.
In this lesson, I am going to talk about the third and final pillar of good mental health, namely the psychological factors.
How Inner-Conflict Leads To Depression
Throughout this lesson, I will be utilizing a well-known concept within psychodynamic therapy called inner-conflict.
There is an inner-conflict at the root of almost all forms of depression both short-lasting and long-lasting.
Inner-conflict occurs when one force (or motivating factor) is pulling you in one direction emotionally or spiritually, and another force is pulling you in the opposite direction. The bi-product of this process is melancholy and anhedonia, the two primary symptoms of depression.
And as you have learned by watching the first video in this course, the existence of these primary symptoms leads to the development of the secondary symptoms and if all symptoms persist for a minimum of two weeks, we have a full-blown depression.
The Three Different Types Of Inner-Conflict
There are three different types of inner-conflict.
The first one is when two motivating factors compete against each other. For example: if the job you love is making you move away from the city you love.
The second type of inner-conflict occurs when a motivating factor competes against a reality. For example, if a worsening eye-sight is impeding your ability to do the job or activity that you enjoy doing.
The third and final type of inner-conflict is when a motivating factor competes against a cultural norm or a value that is important to the social group that one exists in. For example, if someone is homosexual but their family is not accepting of homosexuals, or if someone wants to change careers but is expected to stay in the family business.
How To Solve Inner-Conflict
It is essential to solve the inner-conflict if you want to get rid of your depression permanently. Once you solve the inner-conflict, both the primary and secondary depressive symptoms will decrease over time.
The easiest way of overcoming the first type of inner-conflict is to allow one of the two motivating factors to win over the other and to quickly start mourning the loss of the other motivating factor. In regards to the example I mentioned earlier, it would be to allow either the city or the job to win over the other and to mourn the loss of the other one.
When it comes to the second type of inner-conflict, I would recommend you to accept reality, mourn the loss of your motivating factor and to find a new motivating factor that works with your reality. So again in regards to the previous example, I would recommend the person to accept that their eye-sight is not going to allow them to continue with their current job or activity and encourage them to find another job or activity that suits them better.
And for the final type of inner-conflict, it is important to allow the motivating factor to win over the cultural norm or value of one’s social group. At the end of the day, no matter how important the social group may be, or how dire the consequences of going against the cultural norms may be, the motivating factor is, in the majority of cases, a reflection of one’s genuine nature. So going against that would maintain the inner-conflict permanently. In regards to the example I mentioned earlier, the person would have to choose to prioritize their sexual identity or dreams over the value of their family members.
That’s A Wrap! Thank You For Taking The Course!
In this lesson, I have told you about the different types of inner-conflicts and how to solve them. If you want my help with reflecting on your inner-conflict, then feel free to use the coupon code at the bottom of this page for 25% percent off on your first online therapy session or your first purchase of a 5-session pack.
A transcript of this video has been provided on this page. Feel free to look back at it whenever you need to. For those of you who have signed up to Wherapy+ (a subscription service that offers online mental health courses) worksheets will be available as well.
I hope you enjoyed the Do It Yourself Depression Treatment program. I wish you the best of luck in applying what you have learned. If you apply what you have learned in this course consistently over a prolonged period of time, I am sure that you will overcome your depression once-and-for-all.
And if you need any help during your journey to a depression-free life, do not hesitate to book a session with me.
Remember you are a good person and you deserve to live a depression-free life.
Thank you very much and have a great day!